Success

Why You Can’t Have It All, If You Want It All

December 30, 2018 by Camilla

Is trying to have it all causing you to have less than you could?

I’m sure you’ve heard phrases like:

“You can’t have the cake and eat it too.”
“Go big or go home.”

I don’t know about you, but I’ve never liked those phrases. I mean, what good is it to have a cake if you can’t eat it? And why can’t you BOTH go big and go home?

I know, the meaning behind them is that you must choose. Either eat the cake or have it. Either go big or go home.

It’s the “either or” concept I’ve never liked.

And that’s how I’ve approached things. Have it all.

But this year that will change and I’ll explain why so that you can take stock of your life and see if trying to have it all right now, is causing you to have a lot less than you could have.

I love to ski. I know people that are hooked to TV-shows the way I love to get my turns in. My days in the winter are usually laid out like this: Work, Ski, Work. Some days it’s more ski than work. Unless it’s a client day.

Sounds great, right?

It is, if you want to run a lifestyle business aka. solopreneur business.

But it’s not great if you’re trying to scale to the next level and build a company with a team.

Skiing breaks my focus. It diverts my thinking. It also takes a lot of time. I’m sure you have similar things that eats up time. Things you enjoy but that are time-consuming.

So this year I’m giving up skiing. I may go a few times, but that’s it.

In order to grow my solopreneur business into a real company with a team and all the jazz that comes with that, I need to work like a CEO of a Fortune 500 company. I need to think like one, show up like one and act like one.

Something has to give. Something has to be edited out in order to find the time, focus and energy necessary to take things to the next level.

We each get 168 hours in a week and for every yes you say, you automatically say no to something else. Key is figuring out what to say yes to and what gets a no.

Ask yourself. What habits, activities, mindsets, or beliefs are you trying to hold onto even though you know they are slowing you down from getting what you really want? And why are you so afraid to give them up, in order to achieve those goals and dreams of yours?

In our modern society we’ve been trained to think that we shouldn’t have to give something up in order to move to the next level or achieve something we want, but that mindset can cause us to move toward our goals like molasses instead of a rushing river.

Think of it this way, when you spread 100% of your time and energy over 10 things each only gets 10% of focus. If you cut that to 5 things you suddenly are able to give each thing twice the focus. Imagine where you could be in a year if you put twice the time, effort and focus on an important goal of yours.

You’d be a whole lot further than if you keep trying to hold onto all the things. Once you achieve your goal you can always add things back in. Short-term sacrifice for long-term gain.

In other words, if you want it all, you may need to sacrifice a few things now, so that eventually you can have it all.

What will you stop doing or edit out in 2019 in order to go to the next level in your life and career?

ps. I’m super-excited to introduce the first public version of the Excel Your Life JournalPlanner. For now it’s available as a PDF download. It’s a journal and planner combination that gives you CLARITY, focus and strategy so you can move forward on your goals. Just going through the questions and worksheets will help you excel to the next level. A physical version will be out fall of 2019 (or sooner if we can).

People Who Achieve Their Goals Do These 6 Things

April 24, 2018 by Camilla

I don’t know what your mission and life goals are, but to me it’s unacceptable that in today’s digital age with so many possibilities and access to information, people, programs, mentors and whatnot, that only 5-10% of people achieve what they say they want to do.

Why is that?

Why do some people achieve their goals while others struggle? And what do they do differently from those who don’t achieve their goals?

Having worked with thousands of people in addition to studying successful people, I’m starting to narrow this thing down. Of course this isn’t a scientific, double-blind, placebo kind of study so keep that in mind. These are just my observations and personal experiences.

People who achieve their goals:

1. Know how they want their life to look like and why.
They spend time asking themselves how they want their life to look like in 3 years, in 5 years, 10 years and even 25 years. Most people only spend time figuring out how they want their vacation to look like, not their life. Knowing the answers to this big question doesn’t just land on your head. It requires you spending time figuring that out.

2. Write down and review their goals.
Writing down goals and reviewing them is key. Many studies show a huge advantage of writing down your goals vs. trying to keep them in your head. The human brain likes to work as little as possible and will forget things that’s not on top of our mind. Hence why reviewing goals even on a weekly basis is key.

3. Figure out how to achieve what they want.
Too many people say they want something but then don’t take action because they may not know how and let that stop them instead of figuring it out. We didn’t know how to go to the moon when that goal was announced but it only took 8 years to figure it out. That was long before the internet, crowdsourcing and looking things up on Google!

4. Are persistent, consistent and don’t give up.
They know that ease and comfort don’ go hand in hand with achieving ANY goals. They know it takes time, hard work and sticking to it. They expect challenges, obstacles and know it’s up to them to make things happen. They also know that things don’t happen overnight and that all those small steps forward adds up.

5. Surround themselves with those that support and can help their vision.
Having the right people supporting you is tremendously helpful. They seek out people, coaches, mentors, masterminds. They limit exposure to those that are negative nancies. They know it takes a network of people to go to their personal moon.

6. They work on their mindset.
They know how important believing in themselves is and how essential the mind, beliefs, habits and self-talk are to success. They make sure to create habits that support their way to success. Henry Ford was spot on when he said: “Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t, you’re right.”

With the incredible access to information, people and digital support, today there are ZERO excuse to not live the kind of life you want to live. Of course, you do need to know what kind of life you want to live. It all starts there.

What is holding you back from achieving your goals?

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Do You Have a Success Mindset?

October 23, 2017 by Camilla

Are you where you want to be in life? If not, keep reading. There may be some things you’re doing that is causing that.

It amazes me that so many people go through life complaining about something they CHOOSE to do, CHOOSE to be and CHOOSE to continue instead of doing something about it.

“Ugh, I have to go to work.”
“Ugh, if I only had more money.”
“Ugh, I’m so fat and out of shape.”
“Ugh, I hate this traffic.”
“Ugh, if it wasn’t for so and so my life would be better.”

And the list goes on. You know those people. Maybe you’re one of them. They complain about EVERYTHING! And you wonder, why don’t you do something about it instead of complaining?

Are there times when we all go “ugh”? Of course. It’s in our nature to want to complain but when your life is one big “ugh” you are training your brain to not only be negative but to see the world as one big obstacle, and as if you’re a victim of all those things versus choosing them.

My favorite is when people tell me they are stuck. They are stuck where they live. They are stuck where they work. They don’t have a choice and the excuses continue.

Stuck is a mindset. Not a physical reality. Unless you’re glued and tied down to a chair, that’s bolted down, with no chance of escaping. Now you can say you’re stuck! Let’s not hope that’s the case.

You CHOOSE to live where you live, work where you work, and the life you are living. Every single decision you have made has led to where you are. You choose to not make the effort to find a better job, you choose to not move, you choose to not do anything about improving your life, getting in shape, improving your relationships, seeking out new friends.

It’s not the co-workers, the weather, your boss, the government, the economy, the family, the community or any other external reasons that are behind you feeling stuck. It’s your mindset and your lack of taking action.

You are 100% responsible for where you are today and you are 100% responsible for where you will be in the future.

How do you start changing that “ugh” and “stuck” mindset? You start by changing your thinking, your language, and you attitude. You stop looking at everything around you as the reason for where you are and instead take a real good look at yourself. If you want to change your life, you must first change yourself. Change starts within you.

One. Change your language from “I have to…” to “I get to…” You get to go to work, you get to sit in traffic, you get to work on a project that may be driving you crazy, you get to answer emails, you get to do x, y and z.

When you use “I get to…” you not only go from a negative to a positive outlook. Using the phrase “I get to…” infuses gratitude. You’re alive and get to do x, y and z.

Gratitude is the bridge to happiness, abundance and feeling empowered.

Your attitude and how you look at things makes all the difference. You can choose how you respond to something. That is all in your power to do.

“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” ~Wayne Dyer

Two. If you’re not where you want to be in life – change it! You are where you are because of your choices. It’s no one else’s fault. Take your power back and take consistent action towards what you want. You are 100% in the driver seat. Stop waiting for someone to hand you your dream life. It’s not going to happen, unless you take action and consistently move towards what you want. The time will pass anyway, so start working towards changing your situation.

What small step can you take every single day towards changing your situation? Rome wasn’t built in one day, but it was built because someone took action.

Three. Work hard on your mindset every single day. It’s just like changing a habit. Practice your affirmations, meditations, visualizations, read, write and re-wire that brain of yours to an abundant mindset filled with possibilities.

For this to work you can’t just sort of do it. You must be 100% committed. Studies done by NASA show that in order to change your neurological pathways (i.e your thinking and processing pathways) you must practice a new habit (ex. affirmations) 30 days in a row to get the effect. At around day 26 to day 30 those new pathways are forming. It takes that long! Miss a single day and you have to start over. After 90 days this new way of thinking is part of you.

Four. Create a support team of friends, coaches, mentors, and masterminds. You need a team to help you go to where you want to go. Get out of the scarcity mindset that you can do this on your own. Successful people not only invest in themselves but they know it takes a village to get to the top.

Five. Be patient. Success doesn’t come overnight. It arrives when you are CLEAR on where you are going, when you take CONSISTENT action, and when you surround yourself with a TEAM that can help you stay on track.

Time will pass regardless so you might as well use the time to work on creating the kind of life you want to live. If you don’t, then you can’t complain about where you are simply because you didn’t do anything about it. And there my friend is your kick in the rear for today. Now, go set a goal for where you will be in 90 days and then work on it daily. Then rinse and repeat. You got this! And remember, it’s always about progress, not perfection.

5 Daily Habits That Gets You Ahead

June 20, 2017 by Camilla

“Success is nothing more than a few simple disciplines, practiced every day.” ~Jim Rohn

Have you ever felt a bit overwhelmed by all the different habits you could incorporate in your life in order to get ahead? I mean, if you google ‘success habits’ then you get a list as long as LA to NY, which isn’t very helpful.

I prefer to incorporate things that has neuroscience or other research supporting them, if possible. Then I test and track to see what positive impact they have on my life and performance. Which you should do too. Always test, tweak and modify so that things work for your specific situation.

Here are five habits that have been game changers for me. I hope they will serve you as well as they have me.

5 Daily Habits That Gets You Ahead

ONE: No digital input for the first hour in the morning. That means no email, no social media, no TV, no news. When you first wake up your brain is still in a subconscious state of mind. Which means, whatever you put in there first thing fuels your mood and energy for the day. I take this even further. I don’t check email or social media until noon usually.

Sadly over 80% of people grab their cell phone first thing and lose precious time being down the rabbit hole. Now the brain is processing all the “gotta do this” “oh, no this happened” which can be dealt with later. If someone has to wait an hour to get a response on an email or text the world will not end. Spend your morning in a way that sets you up for a great day instead. Nurture you, not your cellphone. Your phone will survive.

TWO: Productivity is very much energy management. Want to get more done? Take a 10-20 minute break every 90-120 minutes. Your brain needs you to take a break or it taps out when you are constantly forcing it to focus.

And NO cell phone during your break. That isn’t a real break as your brain still has to process all that input. Meditate, go for a walk, eat lunch, close your eyes, have a fun conversation with someone. Real breaks = productivity boosters. Also, make sure to fuel your brain good nutrition.

THREE: Drink more water. Hydration is essential for health, energy and helping rid your body of toxins. Most people don’t drink nearly as much water as they need. Consult a physician on your recommended amount but most of you need to drink a gallon (3.78 liters) a day or more. Think of it. Your body is about 60% water. It’s that ratio for a reason.

FOUR: Daily and weekly reflection. Highly successful people analyze their day and week to see what works and what doesn’t. They are constantly reviewing and adjusting so that they can improve themselves, processes and systems. That way you can see if you’re on track or off target. Block out time when you sit down and ask yourself what worked and what didn’t and what to do better.

FIVE: Sleep 7-8 hours every night. Over 60 years of sleep research shows that your brain, body, organs and cells need 7-8 hours of sleep in order for you to function properly. Anything less than that not only puts you in a lowered cognitive state, but it heavily impacts your mood, health, hormone balance, productivity, energy, decision making, memory, lifespan and more. Most people say they would never drink and drive, yet they get in the car after only 5-6 hours of sleep, which means they are in a similar cognitive state as if impaired by alcohol!

If you were to incorporate these five habits you’re well ahead of most people. Try them out and let me know what positive impact they have on you and your life. You’re not here to do average things so stop doing the habits of average people.

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3 Habits to Help You Achieve Success

April 25, 2017 by Camilla

Have you ever lost momentum pursuing a goal because life happened? Or you got started but then lost the motivation to continue? What is needed to stay on that path of success?

In this short training video I’m covering the 3 habits you must put in place to help you achieve your goals and the kind of success you want in life.

Summary:

How do we stay successful? That is a question that someone asked me last week at a conference. I’ve studied successful people for quite some time now and my answer to that is three fold. None of the habits though work without clarity and knowing why you want to accomplish something. For more information on clarity read this post.

#1. Discipline.

Discipline is the bridge between where you are and where you want to go because if you’re not disciplined we all know that it’s easy to start copping out and start using excuses like “I’ll do it tomorrow.”

#2. Consistency.

Going to the gym once a month won’t get you in shape. You must apply a daily or consistent routine to what you are doing. Consistency breeds success.

#3. Persistence.

You must persist and not take no for an answer. You must apply consistency and persist through all the challenges, obstacles and life happening. Rejection just means onto the next one. Think of NO as Next Opportunity.

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Full transcription of video:

How do you stay successful?

That is a question that I received at a conference this week. I was on a panel talking about coaching and what you need to know about those kind of things when someone in the audience asked me what is one habit that has helped me stay successful or become successful.

I have studied successful people now for quite some time and there’s are a few habits but my answer to that was discipline.

Discipline is the bridge between where you are and where you want to go because if you’re not disciplined we all know that it’s easy to start copping out and being like well I’ll do that tomorrow, maybe. And you start using the excuses for not going where you want to go. So when this lady asked me what one habit has helped you be successful or what is one habit that we should incorporate in order to stay successful or become successful in achieving our goals the answer is discipline.

So let’s talk about discipline because that is a hard one. How do you stay disciplined? Well we’re going to talk about that and some other habits that’s going to help you out. But for you to stay disciplined you need to be very very clear on your goal and why you want to go where you’re going. So if you’re well I sort of want to do this, I am not so sure then it’s hard to stay disciplined right? Because if you’re not clear on why you’re doing something it’s easy to start using the excuses.

Quote: For you to stay disciplined you need to be very clear on your goals and why you want to achieve that.

So my answer to all of these things when it comes to habits and achieving your goals and having the kind of success that you want in life it is having clarity on where you’re going and why why do you want to achieve this? I was talking about this in one of my blog post that the one thing that rates successful people from non successful people is clarity.

Successful people are very very clear on where they’re going and why they want to go there. They have a vision and they have spent time reading and figuring that out. They don’t just wake up one morning and say okay this is what I want to do. They’re like why do I want to do that? Okay, why is that important to me and so forth?

That is the first step in any kind of venture when you go: I want to do this, I want to write a book, I want to start a business, I want to start a foundation, I want to become better at my job, I want to become the number of one sales rep or realtor or financial expert or whatever it is that you’re working on. I want to be at the top on my field it. All that needs to have that clarity as to why you’re going where you going.

Next thing is that it’s not only staying disciplined right? Disciplined means that you do the work whether you feel like it or not. That means that you will go to the gym if you have a health goal of losing weight and getting in shape. That means staying disciplined and go when the schedule says to go. That means that when you wake up in the morning and say tonight I’m going to the gym, that means that you go to the gym and do it whether you feel like it or not. So that’s discipline. Doing the work whether you feel like it or not.

But it’s also being consistent. Because if you are disciplined to go to the gym once a month you’re not disciplined. You go once a month. Consistency means that you’ve got to do it consistently right? So if your goal is to get in shape going to the gym once a month, even if that means you’re disciplined, that is not going to get you in shape. It’s the consistency of doing it either daily or on a very very regular basis.

Let’s also use this example because someone once asked Seinfeld, if you watched it, I don’t know where you are world but most of the world has been exposed to Seinfeld. A funny show that millions and millions of people have watched.

Seinfeld is the I believe, maybe now things have changed but at the time was the highest-paid comedian and everyone asked him how he could produce so much material. Because he was just prolific. He had so much good stuff and he said “I never break the chain.” What does that mean? “I never break the chain. I sit down every single day and I write whether I feel like it or not.”

I think Stephen King does the same thing. He sits down every single day and write whether he feels like it or not. Athletes go to work every single day whether they feel like it or not. The professionals get to work regardless. So that is the consistency and the discipline. And it’s the consistency together that will do it.

Also you got to be persistent and that’s where that vision and the clarity comes in. Because you’re going to have challenges. You’re going to hit obstacles, you’re going to hit roadblocks. You’re going to be challenged and the clearer you get on something it’s like the universe always almost tests you. Like let’s see how committed you are to this goal and try to sideswipe you. Life happens, you get sick, injuries, kids, maybe financial stuff going on and you’re like oh my gosh!

That’s why that persistent persistence to push through regardless is so important. Henry Ford knew he wanted an 8 cylinder engine and he was persistent. It’s hard work to say um, I want this and he didn’t give up. He was “I know I’m going to have to keep working at it.” He told all of his engineers to just keep trying. They said it’s impossible. He went “I don’t care, keep working at it.” That consistency, the discipline to continue and the persistence all led to success.

Those are the habits that can help you get successful. There are many different habits of course but I would say when it comes to really really pushing through you got to be disciplined, you got to stay consistent and you’re going to have to be persistent. You can’t take no for an answer. You’re going to keep going at it until you get a yes. Because we often have heard of these great stories right where authors have been rejected 30 times. What if they gave up after the first time? You can’t take no for an answer. It just means next opportunity so keep going.

Stay disciplined, stay consistent and be persistent and don’t give up until you get what you want.

Those are three great habits for becoming successful at achieving the kind of goal that you have set. But like I said when you set that goal be very clear on why you want to achieve that goal. Don’t just set a goal because someone told you that you should. Don’t set a goal of something that you don’t really really feel inside is your passion and what you truly want to do. So again to recap three habits to help you be successful in achieving your goals is to be disciplined, stay consistent and be persistent. Don’t give up.

I hope those three three tips helps. And as always make sure wherever you’re watching this that you go to my website No More Hamster Wheel and subscribe to my Youtube channel, follow me on Instagram, follow me on Facebook, where you can find more training, videos and so forth. And make comments below.

Ask me any questions and as always do the things that helps you Stop Spinning and Start Living because life’s too short not to.